Candy Gram Solutions- Peers [12H]

Future interventions should aim to encourage children and adolescents to challenge rejection and exclusion perpetuated by their own peer group, because they may be more influential in regulating the behavioral norms of their close friends than of their classmates (13). 

Results from the KiVa program indicate that fostering bystander behaviors reduces bullying in school environments (Salmivalli et al., 2011) (13).

Facilitate positive emotions, such as making people feel good, and making them laugh (11).

For people left out or upset with the candy grams another thing to do is focus on making other people feel good. This is something I do in a social situation where I feel awkward. I look for someone else who looks even more uncomfortable, and I talk to them and try to make them feel better. It gives me something to do and we both end up feeling better!

Sources:

(1) https://carolinemaguireauthor.com/help-a-kid-who-is-being-ostracized-feeling-left-out/

(2) https://www.responsiveclassroom.org/how-to-talk-with-parents-about-cliques-and-exclusion/

(3) https://afineparent.com/positive-parenting-faq/social-exclusion.html

(4) https://psychcentral.com/health/why-feeling-left-stings-and-healthy-ways-to-cope#why-it-bothers-you

(5) https://workbravely.com/blog/diversity-equity-inclusion/when-you-feel-excluded-at-work-speaking-up-bravely/

(6) https://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/rejection

(7) https://gsdrc.org/topic-guides/social-exclusion/causes/exclusion-based-on-social-status-or-identity/

(8) https://www.mcleanhospital.org/essential/bullying-kids-teens

(9) https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2024.1368214/full

(10) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22889163/

(11) https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0190740924000148

(12) https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1184924.pdf

(13) https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6085085/

(14) (https://conversationstoremember.org/loneliness-and-isolation/#:~:text=Loneliness%2C%20on%20the%20other%20hand,of%20a%20hostile%20social%20environment.)

(15) https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022519321003581

(16) https://elifesciences.org/articles/78246

(17) https://educationdata.org/public-education-spending-statistics

(18) https://www.aaastateofplay.com/where-in-the-united-states-are-children-most-dependent-on-free-school-lunches/

(19) https://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=898